Alexis Tia Aho

I did a podcast on this topic a few months back, and there have been so many moments since that have prompted me to think back on what I said and those I was referring to. I just recently had an encounter with one of my "fake friends". I think it says a lot about a person if they are the ones to instigate a conversation, ask a question that they already know the answer to, and then to instantly get upset at the answer. And not just that, but to then become so defensive that there is no conversation to be had. I was asked such a question. She already knew it was going to be an awkward and hard conversation, and I'm sure she expected me to give her a very glazed over, sugared response to make her feel better. But no. I told myself a long time ago that I needed to stop being so nice to people, and this instance was definitely one that I didn't feel like doing so. But that's not to say I was incessantly rude either. So I respond; I explain how I feel and my rese...

Do you ever get those random moments where you're absolutely consumed in one thing, and then your subconscious dredges up some deep, dark, emotionally tragic memory or thought? You know...then your entire day is ruined because you were just doing your thing but your mind was like, nah, not today?  I just had that. I was semi-pleasantly working away at my Art History homework, lost in the Byzantine empire and it's art works when BAM. A memory; a thought; a dumbass idea popped into my head.  Back in the day, I was young, impressionable, and impulsive beyond measure. I married young. I married someone I thought I loved. And after three years of marriage, I left. But it's not just that I left...but that I was told to leave. This is something I've been battling myself with for such a long time, and I should be over it, but in the end, I don't think I ever will be. I spoke up about my feelings...I wanted more out of my life and out of my marriage but he didn...